“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” - Martin Luther King Jr

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“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” - Martin Luther King Jr

The Tenth Man’s mission is to save lives by raising awareness and offering confidential and immediate assistance to anyone who finds themselves on the path towards suicide.

“Healing takes time, and asking for help is a courageous step.” - Mariska Hargitay

We respond with a plan for receiving immediate assistance by connecting people in need with the most appropriate resources.

The Tenth Man will immediately connect clients with help by:

Confidential

First and foremost, The Tenth Man ensures complete anonymity and confidentiality for all of our clients. No personal information will be shared externally.

Help

The Tenth Man will offer resources to help with those every day life challenges that seem insurmountable at the moment. We have connections with multiple local resources in the St. Louis Metropolitan area, both Illinois and Missouri. In addition, we can help defray the immediate costs related to these services.

The Tenth Man resource pool will have experience and expertise, as well as a genuine concern and understanding of the relational impact depression has on these life challenges.

Mental Health Assistance

The Tenth Man will offer resources to help with those every day life challenges that seem insurmountable at the moment.

We will provide confidential and affordable:

Personal Planning & Financial Help

When people are suffering from depression or PTSD, life’s challenges often seem overwhelming to the point of physically feeling like one is suffocating.

We can offer help with:

Jon Allard Jr.’s Story

Even days or weeks leading up to that fateful day, the face of depression is often not obvious.

The Day We Didn’t See Coming

On September 12, 2018, at 12:15 PM my brother Jon Allard Jr walked through my front door just as the St. Louis Cardinals were throwing the first pitch of an afternoon game. I didn’t realize that this would be the last time. He got up to go give our mom a hug before he said “well, I’m going to go get some fresh air before I head back to the salt mine.” Instead, he apparently went out to his car where he grabbed a 9 mm pistol and took his own life.

In retrospect, he did seem a bit sad and I know he was going through some normal life challenges; however, even his closest friends and family did not know that he suffered so deeply from depression. He was a good and kind man whom everyone loved, and he was always helping others even throughout his own struggle. Shortly before he took his own life, he sent a text to a dear friend asking that word be spread about the signs of depression. So that will certainly be part of the mission of TheTenthMan.org.

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available by simply dialing 988, is a 24-hour, toll-free, confidential suicide prevention helpline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress.

Leverage 988’s “In Crisis? Call or Text 988”

Need Support Now?

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org